Living from the Philippines to the United States

 “A GREAT WAY TO LEARN ABOUT YOUR COUNTRY IS TO LEAVE IT”.

                                                           –Henry Rollins

I totally agree with that.This isn’t my 1st time to be out of my country, i worked in Korea for a year, which I think was a lot easier to adjust to than I have now in the US.Thank goodness the technology has brought the world ways to communicate with your love ones,or else,  it would be a whole lot of emotional stress.I remember the strange feeling I had when I was about to leave my country for the 1st time,i was excited but at the same time I was sad and nervous.I had to leave to get a job and support my family;that has always been my promise to myself.Growing up with my 6 siblings, and my parents was one of the best things that I’ve ever experienced in my life, but,it was the most challenging and hardest part of our lives, it wasn’t easy, life was so hard on us.We  were happy but we barely had anything.Everything I’ve gone through taught me how to live.After working in Korea,i achieved some of my main goals.For more than 5 years, probably around 8 years, we didn’t have electricity.After Korea,everything has gotten better.We finally have electricity,we have a decent tv, fans,a good size fridge, and a better looking family house and less stress, aha!my parents doesn’t fight that much anymore, you know, financial situations sometimes leads to unnecessary arguments.

Living in the Philippines is cheap, it really is!and I learned about that when I moved here.The Philippines have a high rate on tourism, not just because it’s cheap but you will love the places!

Since the cost of living is cheap,salary is cheap too.You can make $6/day (min.wage) in the provinces, as I can remember, and like $10/day in the city.It depends on what kind of job you have, your educational attainment, sometimes what/which school you went to, and this is why parents would always tell us to study hard so we can get a better job in the future and unfortunately,there’s more high school graduates than college, and a lot of people didn’t even step in school or discontinued school because of financial problems, there’s not a lot of opportunities in the Philippines.Here comes the reason why a lot of Filipinos would go work overseas for years to support their family and for them to be able to send their kids to school especially college, and whenever they graduate, the 1st thing they have to do is to give back,i mean take care of their parents/families.This is what I love about us Filipinos,very family oriented.

I didn’t make it to college.I felt so disappointed  for awhile because I couldn’t do anything, we couldn’t afford it, and again,opportunities aren’t as big as it is in the US.We don’t have student loans.I’ve always worked right after I graduated high school and Im glad I did, because if I didn’t I wouldn’t be this strong and independent person that I am right now.If you were to leave me on an island or somewhere alone,i would know how to live.I know education is very important, it’s the only treasure no one can steal from you.Now, i just wanna be happy, as long as I’m kind to people,i’m good.Your educational attainment isn’t going to be a requirement in heaven, right? But of course I would still go to school if I’ll have the opportunity.This time, all my heart wants is to have my own family, a happy family.I haven’t work since I got here,but I had few hobbies I did just to have something to do like making bows and selling them on etsy,or sometimes on consignment events.

I was gonna start wedding film business, but I stopped buying gears because we found out I was pregnant.We know we have to be financially ready since we are having twins!yay!so blessed! Raising a child in the US is expensive compared to the Philippines.In here, everybody needs to have insurance, in the Philippines,hmmm I don’t even know someone that has one, but I know we have health card.Technology is way too advanced in the US tho.

“FOOD”

Everything is huge in the US! LOL  From vegetables, to fruits, to meals! I remember the 1st time we bought my husband a large drink from a drive thru in the Phils.He said “I thought you ordered a large drink?” Well,that’s our large here hahaha it was like a small drink from here.A meal here is enough to feed 2-3 people back home.Let’s talk about rice! You know the struggle is real! there are few restaurants around who serves Rice,and it’s frustrating! I lost so much weight my 1st few months here,i was so skinny by the time we got married, we had to get my wedding dress altered!Rice is life to us Filipinos! So glad I’m finally adjusted with food.

“PEOPLE”

*Just like wherever you go,there are good people, and the people you just “cannot” trust!I love socializing with people that has same interests as me.

*People here likes to be tan, they use a lot of tanning products like tanning beds, tanning lotions, creams,sprays or just stay under the sun for hours.We,Filipinos,likes to be lighter, and we use a lot of whitening products,and if you’d go to the Philippines,you see a lot of people that uses umbrellas to protect our skin from the sun.I wanted to use umbrella here before too, but I don’t want people to look at me weird LOL

“DAILY ROUTINE”

In the Philippines,usually,the wives has to stay home to take care of the house or kids while the husband works.In here, most people are always busy working.I see both sides advantages and disadvantages.

“WEATHER”

If you’re from Louisiana or have lived in Louisiana before, you know how it is lol Weather is so weird.You’ll be surprise.It would be cold in the morning, be really hot in the afternoon and it would rain at night.It gets cold in the winter,reaaaaly cold! you will never see me fashionable by this time of the year!jeans,boots,jackets,sweaters.It’s not very bad tho, i’m just so happy we have a heater!   I like spring time, where I can start gardening; i love flowers! I love the fall too, but not when the leaves fall off the trees!if you’re Filipino,you know what I’m talking about!We take care of them everyday in the Philippines,in here it’s bad.Well,who would go outside and rake and burn them when it’s cold anyway?and snakes are scary! they are my no.1 fear! If I’d step on one i would die from a heart attack and not from  a snake bite haha

“ADVENTURES”

 

MUDRIDING with my husband! I was scared, but I learned to love it!

 

“FISHING”

I remember I used to go fishing with my dad, but this time we use a boat!lol The only reason why I like to go fishing here is because there’s no live fish you can buy around.I like to cook fresh fresh!

“DEER HUNTING”

It’s really boring! but when I see a deer I get so excited! It makes me sad tho having to shoot the biggest one when its family is around.Am I weird? LOL I still like beef and pork better than deer meat. Hmmm im not a fan!We don’t have deers in the Philippines,only in the Zoos! I enjoy doing it tho with my husband,he lets me take a nap in the deer stand and he keeps it warm with a heater hahaha I love him so much!

I’m sure there’s a lot more differences I can share, but I will tell you again guys later on as I learn more.I’ll see you again on my next article! Thank you for taking time to read my 3rd blog.If you have questions and suggestions for my next blog, feel free to leave a comment.Please share my blog, sharing is caring! Have a wonderful day,God Bless you!

 

What it’s like to be an ”OILFIELD WIFE”

 

                                                 WONDERFUL!

but not all glitters and rainbows.My husband works offshore, basically 6 months working and 6 months at home with his 28 days work and 28 days off schedule.We live in a small town in Louisiana called Monroe.We have a dog and living a simple life.We both like to travel to places and eat but unfortunately, we don’t get to do that often.This is the hardest part..missing holidays at home.We always have to either celebrate something when he is home or celebrate  it later when he comes back,sometimes we end up not celebrating at all because of the fact that we are always busy when he’s in.

Sometimes,i don’t understand how some wives complains about not getting a lot of “ME TIME” when their husband is mostly home.I sure don’t know what they go through,but it makes me really sad.I always wish my hubby is home with me.It is very hard to be so far away from him.

I moved to the  US Nov.2015.I didn’t know anyone except for those that I was already talking to in Facebook!(his friends and family).We planned our wedding few months before we started on my visa.Got married Jan.2016.We had a simple but elegant wedding.From the decorations, to everybody’s outfits, to his family and friends who came,I loved it!I was gonna sing him a song but when the music started, oh my goodness all I could think about was my family back home in the Philippines,im feeling sad and sorry that they don’t get to watch me walk down the aisle, glad my sister in law stopped the song!LOL! I couldn’t stop crying! But,it was the happiest day of our lives.I sing to him a lot when he’s home anyway, and trust me it bothers him sometimes.haha                    So,after a week, he left for work.

He left,I was home alone.I am sure I’m not the only oilfield wife who cries every time the husband leaves.I always try not to show him tears,i wait until he leaves the driveway.And then there I am,somewhere around the house sobbing, crying it out, because dang! It hurts to watch him leave knowing he will be gone for a month again.But,it is so much better than those times he had to leave the Philippine Airport!

Back then, staying at home felt like a punishment to me.I was an outgoing person before I came here,I do not like being at home all the time.I would always go somewhere meeting friends, clients,delivering orders,or eat.

My first few months here,I couldn’t drive yet, no friends and no dog,no people that walks around, people are always busy,so,just me and the crickets around I hear at night.I am so glad and truly blessed to have a very caring in laws.They are always there for me.They took me to places I needed to go, take me out for lunch and shop,i think it has helped me a lot. I remember that night when I first got here.Of course I was so happy to be finally with my sweet love! no more thousands of miles apart! The next day was “THANKSGIVING DAY”,oh, i was not prepared at all! We were both so jet lagged and exhausted from almost a 24 hr flight.I was so tired!I was embarrassed showing up wearing jeans, teeny shoes and a long sleeve shirt.They were all dressed up.Not just that, i was so scared to talk to them because…oh my goodness my English isn’t so good at all, and their slang just makes my nose bleed!thank goodness my Josh knew I needed him to say the words slowly!hah!every time! Second day I got to meet his dad’s side of the family.Can you imagine moving to the other side of the world not knowing anyone but your fiancee? at first I was scared, but after almost 2 years I can say I’m finally adjusted!From the food, to the people, to the language,to the culture,to the place.Now I have friends.I can drive whenever and wherever I want to.Met few Filipino friends too.

I am amazed how my husband handled our 1st few months together. It was not the same like it usually was because of course, we only had limited time together when he would go visit me in the Phils!But I am so proud of how much effort and sacrifices he made to get me here.You never really know what  true love can do huh? You never really know how dedicated an oilfield man is until you get to be his wife.Maybe not all of them but I’m so proud mine is! Passionate,humble,caring,understanding,loving,very good listener, funny,and God-fearing.Being an oilfield wife is one of the best role a woman can have in this world.It is a blessing.It is something that not a lot of people can take, and something that you would never imagine can change your life in so many ways.Only strong women can understand and handle.It’s not all about the money they make,it’s the home they build, the strong foundation of love they put on our homes.They long for our hugs too, kisses,kind words, they need our encouragement too just like how we feel when everything else in this world seems to crash on us.They’re always tired, sometimes really sleepless, they don’t get to choose what they wanna eat everyday, they don’t get to sleep on a king/queen size bed, and trust me internet is what makes it really sad and hard.You can’t talk to him when you want or need to.It’s tough.So I really salute all the oilfield wives especially those who have kids, and hats off for the oilfield men out there who takes care of their family.

My husband and I still have a long way to go,i believe.We’ve been married for only a year and half.And oh, kids? I’m 28 weeks pregnant…with TWIN BOYS!!! due on Nov.!   So if you have any advice you can give us, we would love to hear.English is not my 1st language,so excuse my grammar!LOL I’m trying! Thank you for taking time to read my very 1st blog.Have a good day! GOD BLESS!!      !